Perspective is Everything

Payton taught me many life lessons without even knowing he was doing so. He taught me not to take ANYTHING for granted. He also taught me to enjoy life’s little moments. I think the biggest lesson in life that he taught me is “perspective is everything”.
At times, people tend to “walk on eggshells” around me, or feel guilty for something they said in front of me or to me. Sometimes I hate it when people say “you’re so strong”, but I realize that I really am strong in some ways because I can handle it. I can handle people saying things that others in my position might be offended by.
Maybe losing your dog was indeed the “worst thing ever”, to YOU. Maybe “everything happens for a reason” still applies to your life. It’s possible that you are “grieving” when your child goes off to college. When you say “I wish my baby would stop growing up”, I realize it’s because your perspective hasn’t seen the alternative and you really just want to soak up them being little (which you should!). Perhaps losing your 98 year old grandparent was the worst day of your life. I remember when I was 12 and my great grandma died. It was (to that date) the worst thing that had ever happened in my life- that was my perspective then. It’s okay to complain that your son or daughter is driving you insane, I was once there too. It’s okay to say “life is what you make it”. That actually used to be my favorite quote (and still is in some situations), but it doesn’t apply to everything and I know this now. It’s okay to say “Payton died”, because he did! You don’t have to beat around the bush and say “he passed” or “you lost him”. It’s okay to say the real words. I won’t be offended. It’s okay to tell me your child is dealing with something difficult. I get it, and your “difficult” may not be the same “difficult” as we have been dealt, but it is YOUR perspective and nobody else’s. If 2020 was the worst year of your life, I will probably consider you blessed, but I won’t be offended.
I guess my point is, please don’t censor yourself to me. I AM strong enough to realize we may not have the same perspectives on life, and I wouldn’t want anyone to ever need to know this perspective. It’s taken me a bit to fully get to this point, but I just want REAL, that is all.

Author: PaytonPiesMommy

I am a mother to 4 beautiful and amazing children. My youngest son was called to Heaven on March 26th, 2017 after a 6 month battle with a brain cancer called DIPG (Diffuse Intrinsic Pontine Glioma). He was only 7 years old. My life has been forever changed and my heart longs to be with him. I must complete my mission on earth, until we meet again. Writing is my outlet.

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